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When The Clothes Come Off

Taking it off. Undressed. Stripped. Getting Naked.  What’s the common thread (or lack thereof) here? Taking OFF your clothes.  There’s many different ways to say it, but the bottom line is something is coming off.

Wal Mart. Michael Kors. Target. Express. Bebe. Louboutins. Marshalls. Gucci. What’s the common thread (or difference of) here? They’re all clothes….that you eventually have to take off at some point.

So I know you’re probably thinking, “What’s the big deal about taking off my clothes?” I’m so glad you asked….

Yesterday at work, I wore jeans. Not baggy jeans, but fitting (SN: no dude should ever wear skinny jeans though….just saying), nice jeans and a polo. Truth be told, I love wearing jeans and would probably wear them everyday if I could. I’m not a big suit and tie guy, but that’s just me. We have casual Fridays at work, but we also had the opportunity to buy jean passes for the last couple Thursdays for $5 each. The money goes towards fundraising efforts for United Way. So I thought, “Hey, why not give money to a great cause and wear jeans while I’m at it?”.  But then…the looks came. Many people at work were looking at me like there was a bug on my face because I wore jeans on Thursday. Guess they forgot about United Way…who knows (or really cares, for that matter)?

On a separate occasion (also at work), I remember dressing up for a big Friday event I was helping to run. That particular day, I had on slacks, a dress shirt and a tie. And the difference between the two instances was like night and day.  People spoke to me that never usually do. They started up conversations out of the blue. It was actually quite hilarious because I quickly figured out the only difference wasn’t me, but the people I came in contact with. I was the same Carlos, but people reacted to me differently based on what I had on.

The point of it all is whether you have on designer clothes, overalls (they need to come back in style, lol), or a convenience store T-Shirt, you are what you wear….but are you really? True, clothes do paint an image, but what about the canvas underneath when the clothes come off? Will you hire the well-groomed person with a suit and tie, well shined shoes, but no substance or drive? The better person for the job may be the one who needs some extra grooming and training. But let’s face it, we really want the person who seems to be ready-made for our liking. Even in relationships, a woman with a skirt that barely covers her thighs will almost always get the bad rep for being “loose”. She’ll almost always not be a candidate for marriage…not based on her heart, but her image. And some women may find doctors, lawyers and CEOs more appealing than the average blue-collar worker.  Not all because of a salary price tag, but the uniform and prestige that is assumed to go along with it.

So, if you want to buy all the designer clothes you can find? Do it! And have a designer personality to match. If you choose to wear thrift store clothes and save your money? Do it! Just still have that same designer attitude underneath. It’s not about the person wearing the clothes, but who they are when the clothes come off!

Two Can Play That Game

Life is a game.  No matter how you analyze or dissect it, it’s all a game.  Let’s take dating for instance. We say we don’t like playing games, but we play them don’t we? Don’t think so? I beg to differ. Just think about dating or just going out on the weekend. Ladies, do you not get dressed up in your most form-fitting dress, put every strand of hair in place and flawless makeup? Guys, do you not put on your best smelling cologne, maybe do a few extra push ups, and shave right before we walk out the door. Again, it’s all a game to get what you want out of life.

One of the games we find ourselves on the extreme cooperative or non cooperative end of is when it comes to the work place. Do you consider yourself to be an over political or under political person when it comes to the workplace? Even if you possess qualities of both, chances are you lean more heavily to one side. I recently finished reading a really informative book on workplace behavior and scenarios called Survival of the Savvy: High Integrity Political Tactics for Career and Company Success (sheesh….say that 10 times fast) by Rick Brandon, Ph.D., and Marty Seldman, Ph.D.

I received the book as part of a course I took for work called, “Organizational Savvy”. The class and the book both discuss how we all have a “political buzz” about us, whether we realize it or not. Are you known as the over bearing project leader or maybe the passive leader who needs just a push of aggressiveness to really succeed? Brandon and Seldman define “organizational politics” as  informal, unofficial, and sometimes behind-the scenes efforts to sell ideas, influence an organization, increase power, or achieve other targeted objectives. The purpose of the book is not to take you completely out of your comfort zone. It’s more so to help you realize that if you do certain things as an over or under political person, you will more than likely get specific results. The best thing is to take pieces of each side to be stern, balanced, and progressive in your career.

So you may be thinking, “I don’t care about my job,” or “This doesn’t apply to me”. Not so fast….it does. Whether you’re in the corporate world or not, you have to deal with people in everyday life. As long as we have to deal with people, there will always be politics.So why not incorporate these values for what we get paid to do? It just makes sense. Make sure to check out Survival of the Savvy…You can find it online at Amazon.com and at your local bookstore. Trust me, you’ll be glad that you read it.

It’s game time, so how are you going to play? Share your testimony of times you had to deal with organizational politics and how you handled it?