There is power in the words we speak. I’m a firm believer that we often speak certain circumstances into our lives, be it good or bad. This is not to say that we can speak all positive or negative things into existence. Saying “I’m going to be a millionaire tomorrow” and watching it come true would be great, but I may not be ready for what comes along with it. But that’s another blog for another day. I believe we underestimate the power of the negative words we speak into others’ lives too. The old saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is one of the biggest lies I’ve ever heard. No matter who you are or how strong you are, there’s something that can be said to break you down.
Last week, I had a conversation with someone I think is extremely negative. I tried to give the benefit of the doubt the first, second, third and fourth time I encountered their draining spirit. But soon I realized this must be their M.O. I listened to them speak negatively (for quite a while) about a personal endeavor of mine that I started on before I gave my rebuttal. In a nutshell, I pretty much told them that they are entitled to their own opinion and I’m going to keep headed in the direction I’m going. It’s always funny to me how people who have nothing going on in their lives (besides their 9 to 5) are so willing to give “advice” on your life and what you should be doing. That’s like telling someone the recipe for a cake they’re making is wrong, and they have never baked a cake in their life. #GOMF
Long story short, this person goes on to tell me how they told their family member that their dreams were not going to go anywhere. They went on to say how people have pipe dreams and don’t do any research to really make money off of it. I then asked, “Well should money be the main motivation for following your dreams?” All I got back was a blank stare. Figures. #GOMF. I will admit, there are those who are creative dreams who have no realm of reality when it comes to execution. But could their issue be something as simple as a lack of a small push of support? If you noticed, I purposely did not reveal the gender, age or race of the person I had the conversation with. That is because it really doesn’t matter. Dream killers come in all forms, shapes, sizes and colors. But what does matter is how you respond to them. Will you let their words act as acid on your forming dreams or will you use them as fuel to propel you forward. I think you already know how I would tell you to handle it. Just say #GOMF (Get Out My Face).